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The Backward Life

“The road to hell is paved with works-in-progress.” —Philip Roth



This is definitely not a sport’s blog, but I feel the need to talk about lacrosse. Lacrosse is a great sport. People get to catch balls in small handheld nets and toss them back and forth. They get to go behind the goal, which is unheard of in other goal sports, and they get to hit the opposing team with sticks. Sounds fun, right? It is. Saturday I attended the University of Idaho lacrosse game against Boise State University. Unfortunately, UI lost in sudden death but that’s beside the point.

What really interested me was the crowd. Here is a sport, that to be honest, isn’t always well attended. Saturday the sidelines were packed. It was packed with mom’s here for Mom’s Weekend along with their spouses and children, other UI students and Moscow community members. All in all, this was not the usual lacrosse match crowd. Many of the spectators were not lacrosse enthusiasts, having attended their first match for the first time that day, and others assumed lacrosse at UI was an upscale event. Let me explain.

One girl in the crowd asked her friend what the point of the game was. When told it was to get the little white ball into the net she asked which net. She is definitely not a regular attendee.
Then there was the alcohol. I expected to see the usual red plastic cups, but what I didn’t expect was the wine. One group of women brought their own bottle of wine and stemmed wine glasses. Talk about classy. They were sipping Bordeaux on the sidelines while the team was practically knocking their opponents unconscious.

Next game I am bringing a tea set (in real china) complete with tea cozy and enough cups to share with surrounding spectators. And instead of screaming at the top of my lungs and abusing the refs I will wave a flag daintily and hold up a supportive and tastefully decorated sign encouraging my team to victory.

My son is a member of a cult.

Okay, it's technically not a cult, but that is what Jon and I call it. Really it is a group of students against drugs and alcohol. They meet weekly and organize activities and hold dances at the school. They have had leadership conferences and tonight they are all participating in Relay for Life.

I was excited for Kyle to donate money and participate with the American Cancer Society, but I have no patience for irresponsible organizers.

The adult leader of the group (a teacher) did not arrive at the event until 30 minutes after it began. My son, along with several other teenagers, stood around with their things unable to even register because their group coordinator had all their forms and money.

When he finally arrived he didn't say one word to the waiting parents - just plowed on through and made his way to register. I finally left my son there, but with specific instructions to call me every hour.

If the group was a cult they would probably forget to buy the sugar for the Kool-Aid, or the guy in charge would buy Crystal Light instead and screw up all their plans.